Glenmore A

Willis

EULOGY FOR GLENMORE WILLIS

Glenmore Anthony Willis lovingly known as Uncle Tony, Tony Tuff, Rambo, Gilda and Heng back, was born April 3, 1950- the 8th child of the Levi and Gladys Willis clang; in the quaint but fruitful district called Roberts Field, St Andrew, Jamaica.

He like the other siblings and district children, attended the Halls Delight All Age School and was known for sport activities including playing marbles, cricket, bird hunting and of course, picking and enjoying the exotic fruits, the district was known for; such as avocadoes, jackfruit, mammee fruit, sweet cups, peaches, apples, pineapples, sugar cane, and a wide plethora of unique mangoes.

Tony's earlier days also included exciting trips to the nearby rivers, and along with other siblings and friends would fetch water, to be used for cooking and bathing purposes at home. Of course, Tony never missed an opportunity to enjoy long hours bathing, playing, and catching crayfish called those days "janga" by the river. Tony had some close friends and confidantes he pared with; and  no matter how dark or late it got, his arrival home was a sure thing.

Tony enjoyed his mother's and other family members outdoor fireside cooking; and whether it was a meal containing livestock, rabbit, goat, pigs, cow from the family homestead, or meat and groceries from the nearby famous "Cross Road Mass Harold" and or other merchants; the aroma of that soul food cooking brought family and strangers together.

The miraculous sharing of such a small pot of provision was often observed in wonder by family children visiting from Kingston, who had never seen so many plates in one home; but no one was left behind. Family was family, and it was a silent non-negotiable code that family members were expected to take care of each other.

Kindness was spread and extended among the Willis household, as visitors were always welcomed and included, no matter how small the portion or item, from barrels sent by sisters living abroad.

Tony loved both his parents; but had a very close relationship with his mother Gladys, known as "Mama" "Aunt" or "Sister Doris."

No matter how late Gilda would return home, he was never disappointed that a meal, no matter how menial or cold, would be awaiting him. Doris saw to that and seemed to have understood his quiet demeanor at times, better than anyone.

Tony liked working with his hands and attempted tailoring with his cousin as guide, but never pursued the craft. He however, later grabbed the opportunity of a lifetime, when he moved to Maryland, to show his skills at farmwork.

He would later make New Jersey his home, and worked at Vida France -a French bakery for 3 years; then later at the Englewood Country Club for approximately 1 year.

Tony to a lot of people might not have appeared sentimental, however, he loved and was extremely protective of his family members, especially his dear sister Merline (Vern). He spent many days or evenings taking his babysitting duties for great nieces and nephews quite seriously.  He did not only watch them play during their parents' absence, but also firmly, but lovingly kept them safely, in line and his babysitting skills had a safe track record!

He was also a great sitter and caregiver for his mother Doris while she was ailing; and even though his laundry skills were not perfect; would have her clothing, linen, washed and bizarrely folded; by the time Vern would return home.

Many also do not know or would not believe that Tony had a very firm disciplinarian side when it came to family matters. He once was heard correcting his oldest sister Vincy "Miss Lou" and stating to her vehemently, that as the oldest sibling, she should set an example for others to follow! Tony was tall and towered over "Miss Lou," but imagine them arguing now about who should set the family rules-him or her! No doubt Tony is in charge over yonder and Grandma Doris of course, as always crying "peace!

Rambo was the second to none uncle for his many nieces, nephews and close family friends; but none as close and dear to each other's heart as nephew -Andrew (Uncle 5).

These two argued constantly about trivial things just to feed off each other's energy and make points that later, they both did not even remember or how what they argued about! In no time they were back to being the authentic duo, who stuck to each other like crazy glue through cooking, meal times, backyard barbeques and of course other fun activities. Andrew kept a close eye on Uncle Tony, especially during his ailing years.

Rambo was also very fond of and proud of his Pastor Neice "Nordia." In his later years, with early dementia, would always mistake his other niece visiting for Nordia; however, for him Nordia and her daughter Sabrina were his whole world!

Many mistakenly believed that Rambo was not religious! But Uncle Rambo insisted that his niece Nordia, get Sabrina christened. He had faith that when Sabrina gets christened, she would be better and she indeed has excelled. He was also one who networked with people; Uncle Rambo made it his point of duty to encourage Nordia in her new found faith, by introducing her to another woman of faith-Sandra. Pastor Nordia led Uncle Rambo to accepting Christ and he also had the spiritual support of other family members; who prayed with and sang to him, especially during his last days

Rambo looked forward to watching wrestling in earlier days and even with early dementia, was able to find the religious station on his radio.

Of course, Tony could never be given the nickname "Rambo" If he did not have a rambunctious side! If you wanted to see him, get radical, not assisted by any special drink or smoking, then step out of line with his sister Vern.

Ironically, he would argue back and forth with Vern, even though he knew she was right most times; he retained his individuality and independence though, by telling her and any others, a piece of his mind! That was quirky way of expressing his deep love for family; but also, his independence and manhood.

Rambo was more intelligent than many thought. He could be heard expressing views and concerns on social events from time to time. He knew how to get his point across and engaged others in intelligent conversations with strong but sensible and reasonable opinions. Have no fear, he voiced loudly his disapproval about injustices and crimes, especially committed on the black race.

Tony was friendly and had a comedian side that everyone who encountered him knew; his jokes would have everyone bent over in stitches; and whether people were laughing at or with him-Tony was the life of the party!

He once mentioned in the earlier days to his niece  visiting from Bermuda, that the Jamaican trees were different from the American. He stated and showed in his comical way, that only he could; that while the Jamaican trees blew cool breeze, the American trees stood stiff like statue!

Tony was meticulously care for, even during his healthy years by his steadfast sister Merline, who insisted on him improving his self-care.

Merline left no stones unturned, to make sure any issues arising with her brother was dealt with and resolved as best as possible. She was his advocate for decades and became his personal caregiver, recruiting, when possible, a few faithful family members and close friends to offload the heavy task of caring for him. She rarely however complained about how truly difficult that was, as she stamped every intentional deed with love and devotion

Merline did not hesitate to reach out to others for advice, if something was beyond her scope of understanding or practice; and is the true epitome of what a devoted sibling is to another. The patience and understanding she demonstrated during her interactions with Tony, went far beyond the understanding of those she engaged in conversation.

Tony's health issues became evident when signs of early dementia appeared over a year ago; but worsened in the last few years and months of his life. His terminal diagnosis was a shock to those close to him, as he never appeared at all distressed than any other times. He however, was always and even more so in his final weeks, given the best care possible. The nursing staff on his unit at Holy Name hospital was fascinated by their patient and cared for him with great pride and joy.

Anthony Glenmore Willis: to some Rambo, Hengback, Gilda, Tony, Uncle Tony, and Tony Tuff but all one unique individual to have walked the face of this earth; not known for fame or fortune, but for a man in his own rights, who was not afraid to live life fully, and on his terms.

Anthony is predeceased by parents Doris and Levi Willis, Siblings: Granville, Victor, Manley (J.A.), Beulah (U.K.) Vincy (USA). He is survived by siblings -Merline Bills, Herma Miller and Gloria Willis.

WALK GOOD RAMBO!

WALK GOOD TONY!

WALK GOOD TONY TUFF!

WALK GOOD GILDA!

GONE BUT NEVER FORGOTTEN!